This blog is a re-post from five years ago--and it is still true today. Even though Mario and I are not fighting, the principles for reconciliation still apply. Think of your love and remember the joy and challenge of a love that lasts.
|Mario and I one random night - 30 years married.|
We are cordial as we speak to one another this morning, but there are icicles sticking to our words. After 25 years of marriage, our fights have become polite.
I know I’m crazy in love with my husband and I know he is my rock as much as a human man can be a human woman’s rock. Even so, I am mad at him. He made me mad yesterday and when he did I felt bad about myself. The mood in our house drastically changed. I didn’t just shut my mouth – I made him angry, too. We were both tired and hungry and spent, so when our busy day was all over, we shared our double sized bed together without touching one another.
This morning I made my own coffee.
Today we will reconcile. I’m mad at him now but I can guarantee you that I will not be able to stay away from him. He rejoices with me in my small victories, like being able to rent a garbage bin for the lowest price. He will help me see things from a balanced perspective and convince me that organic salmon is worth the price. He will kiss me some time during today and chills will radiate from the back of my neck to the base of my spine.
The reason I know this is because I have endured many fights with him. They have threatened my happiness temporarily; but never have stolen from the concept of true love – the dream I am living with this man.
True love is not wimpy. It is not selfish or self-centered. It doesn’t wear make-up to make itself look good. It exists between two people ready and willing and able to sacrifice for and with each other. True love sees disappointment regularly and survives. It is filled with passion, but equally filled with awareness that it is responsible to the world around it. It becomes a large, stable boulder in a sea of change that people know will never move.
My love is not perfect; but it is strong. It is rooted in grace and mercy and forgiveness. It is a marathon runner, fueled by respect, truth and kindness. It has fallen many times on a rocky road that never ends and it has stood up and limped back into the race, ready to go on. My love kicks ass.
That’s why this morning I can write this. I am no baby – I am no spoiled princess. I am a woman of substance and strength and I know who I am. I will apologize for my part and I will forgive him for his.
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